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Chile: two soldiers attack lesbian couple for rejecting sexual advances

Chile Soldier abuse of lesbians

The Homosexual Integration and Liberation Movement (MOVILH) denounced on Tuesday that on October 12, two lesbian women – aged 21 and 22 – were harassed and assaulted for their sexual orientation by two subjects who, according to the accusation, carried a Military Identification Card  (TIM).

The Movilh complaint claims those responsible for the attack were identified as Jorge and Omar Rivera Alarcón.

“After one of the subjects approached the couple and repeatedly annoyed one of the women with sexual advances, the other asked him to stop. Instead the attacker, along with the second aggressor who appeared with a baseball bat, began to beat them with their fists and the baseball bat while yelling at them ‘Sissies, if I want them, I catch them and I take their dyke pussies”, said Rolando Jiménez, MOVILH representative.

The MOVILH spokesman added that when one of the women fell to the ground, they continued to beat her, at which time police officers appeared and stopped the attack.
(Translated, with thanks to Carmen Garland for her help)

El Movimiento de Integración y Liberación Homosexual (Movilh) denunció este martes que el pasado 12 de octubre dos mujeres lesbianas -de 21 y 22 años- fueron insultadas y agredidas por su orientación sexual por dos sujetos que -de acuerdo a la acusación- portaban Tarjeta de Identificación Militar (TIM).

La denuncia del Movilh sostiene los responsables del ataque fueron identificados como Jorge y Omar Rivera Alarcón.

“Luego de que uno de los sujetos se acercara al grupo y molestara repetidamente a una de las mujeres con insinuaciones sexuales, la otra le pidió que se detuviera. Lejos de eso, el sujeto, junto al segundo agresor que apareció con un bate de béisbol, comenzaron a pegarles golpes de puño y con el objeto mientras les gritaban ‘mariquitas, si quiero me las pesco y les saco la chucha mariconas’”, denunció el dirigente de la organización de la diversidad sexual, Rolando Jiménez.

El vocero del Movilh añadió que al caer una de las mujeres al suelo, siguieron golpeándola, momento en que aparecieron funcionarios de Carabineros, deteniéndose entonces el ataque.
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Continue reading at: https://www.elciudadano.com/justicia/denuncian-que-sujetos-con-identificacion-militar-golpearon-con-bate-de-beisbol-a-mujeres-lesbianas/10/29/ (Source)

 

When a lesbian dies: the search for justice for Nicole Saavedra and DJ Anna Cook

DJ Anna Cook Nicole Saavedra

We talk about lesbicide when a lesbian is killed for being so. In our society, loving a woman as a woman is one of the greatest insults to masculinity shown by corrective sexual harassment, rapes that serve as a “warning”, and coexistence with mandatory heterosexuality that repeatedly urges you to stay in the closet. Visibility is the political point that links them: Nicole and Anna were visible lesbians, and they pose the question: did they die because they were lesbians?

Francisca Millán is a lawyer specialising in human rights and gender. Partner of the AML study, which is dedicated exclusively to the defence of women in cases involving gender violence. Her project offers a feminist perspective to realise the right of access to justice. Millán affirms that women are violated in the Chilean legal system. In this scenario, being a lesbian is a direct and very specific affront.

“Lesbianism, from hegemonic masculinity, is a resistance to the social order, because I do not submit to heteropatriarchal logic, I am out of it, and I am not willing to occupy that role,” Millán explains.

Crimes that directly affect lesbians for being lesbian are lesbicide (murder of a lesbian)  and corrective rape (rape of a lesbian in order to “correct her”). They do not exist as such in the Chilean penal code, but, according to Millán, mixing the base crimes with the Zamudio Law, they can be put forward as hate crimes.

“Crimes of this nature express a lot of power, and show that there is an exercise of subjugation with respect to others. That is quite common in the case of lesbians: what more obvious way to subjugate a woman who is a lesbian than to force her to practice oral sex, ”says the lawyer.

Carmina Vásquez is a lawyer. She is part of the Lesbofeminist Network, an articulator of organizations whose purpose is to form support networks for lesbians. Their venture, Chueca Bar, will open soon – a lesbian bar that wants to be a safe space within a very hostile city.

“This has been a tough year. There is the case of Carolina Torres (beaten in Pudahuel), we recently learned about violent girls in the Forest Park. That scares you, it happens at five in the afternoon, and it happens in the places where we meet,” she explains. For her, there is a social punishment for being a lesbian, coupled with being a woman. “These crimes of lesbo-hate go hand in hand with sexual issues under the premise of the “I am going to teach you” type. We talk about corrective violations, which also target a specific type of lesbian: the truck [butch], who defies heteronormal roles”, she says.

The first recorded and investigated lesophobia crime is that of Mónica Briones, beaten to death in one of the corners of Plaza Italia in 1984. The case accelerated the formation of the first lesbian feminist collective in Chile, Ayuquelén, which existed for 15 years.

“In the year 84, when they killed Monica, it lead to our broad understanding of what happened to us all, the discrimination we were living. But there is no current reflection on hate crimes as they are understood today, ”says Cecilia Riquelme, one of its founders, who last Saturday October 12 participated in the Day of Lesbian Rebellion, in Valparaíso.(Translated)

Hablamos de lesbicidio cuando se mata a una lesbiana por serlo. En nuestra sociedad, amar a una mujer, siendo mujer, es una de las afrentas que más hiere a la masculinidad. Desde un acoso sexual correctivo, hasta violaciones que sirven de “advertencia”, y la convivencia con la heterosexualidad obligatoria que, muchas veces, te insta a permanecer en “el clóset”. De ahí que la visibilidad sea la herramienta política que las vincula: Nicole y Anna eran lesbianas “visibles”, y plantean la pregunta: ¿murieron por ser lesbianas?

Francisca Millán es abogada especializada en DD.HH. y género. Socia del estudio AML, que se dedica exclusivamente a la defensa de mujeres en causas que involucran violencia de género. Su proyecto ofrece una perspectiva feminista para materializar el derecho del acceso a la justicia. Millán afirma que las mujeres son vulneradas en el sistema legal chileno. En este escenario, ser lesbiana es una afrenta directa y muy específica.

“El lesbianismo, desde la masculinidad hegemónica, es una revelación al orden social, porque yo no me someto a las lógicas heteropatriarcales, estoy por fuera de ello, y no estoy dispuesta a ocupar esos roles”, explica Millán.

Delitos que afectarían directamente a lesbianas por el hecho de serlo sería el lesbicidio, el asesinato a una lesbiana, y la violación correctiva, la violación a una lesbiana con el fin de “corregirla”. No existen como tales en el código penal chileno, pero, de acuerdo a Millán, mezclando los delitos base con la Ley Zamudio, pueden relevarse los motores de odio.

“Los delitos de esta naturaleza tienen mucha expresión de poder, y demuestran que existe este ejercicio de sometimiento respecto de otras. Eso es algo bastante común en el caso de las mujeres lesbianas: qué forma más evidente de someter a una mujer que es lesbiana que obligarla a practicar sexo oral”, comenta la abogada.

Carmina Vásquez es abogada. Integra la Red lesbofeminista, una articuladora de organizaciones cuyo fin es formar redes de apoyo para las lesbianas. Su emprendimiento, Chueca Bar, abrirá pronto, un bar para lesbianas que quiere ser un espacio seguro dentro de una ciudad muy hostil.

“Este ha sido un año duro. Está el caso de Carolina Torres (golpeada en Pudahuel), hace poco supimos de chicas violentadas en el Parque Forestal. Eso te da miedo, pasa a las cinco de la tarde, y pasa en los lugares donde nos reunimos”, explica. Para ella, existe un castigo social al ser lesbiana, sumado al de ser mujer. “Estos crímenes de lesbo-odio van aparejados a temas sexuales bajo la premisa del yo te voy a enseñar. Hablamos de violaciones correctivas, que además se dirigen a un tipo específico de lesbiana: la camiona, que se sale de la heteronorma”, dice.

El primer crimen de lesbofobia registrado e investigado es el de Mónica Briones, asesinada a golpes en una de las esquinas de Plaza Italia el año 1984. El caso aceleró la formación de la primera colectiva lesbofeminista en Chile, Ayuquelén, que funcionó durante 15 años.

“El año 84, cuando matan a Mónica, se generó una reflexión amplia respecto de lo que nos pasaba a todas, la discriminación que vivíamos. Pero no hay una reflexión puntual sobre los crímenes de odio como son entendidos hoy en día”, dice Cecilia Riquelme, una de sus fundadoras, que el pasado sábado 12 de octubre participó del Día de las rebeldías lésbicas, en Valparaíso.
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Excerpts from Romina Reyes’ article.
Continue reading at: https://www.theclinic.cl/2019/10/16/cuando-muere-una-lesbiana-la-busqueda-de-justicia-para-nicole-saavedra-y-anna-cook/ (Source)

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The Netherlands: lesbian couple attacked during pride

Ana Camboim Katya Sazanova

Photo: Ana Camboim

A lesbian couple was beaten  by two men on a scooter on Saturday morning in the center [of Amsterdam]. The women reported the incident to the police, but they reported that the chance of the perpetrators being caught is small.

“Oh, you are so hot, can we join you?” They walk around 5 a.m. in the Zandstraat, a narrow alley, near the Zuiderkerk after an evening out.

The couple in love walk hand in hand, which they often do in Amsterdam. Camboim gives a reply. “Get on with it, just drive on.”

Camboim gets a thump in her face and falls to the floor. Her girlfriend is also beaten in the face. The women both have bruises, a broken lip and a swollen nose.

For the couple it is a traumatic event. “It was so frightening. We only cried at home. People sometimes look up when we hold hands, but people have never been physical”, says Sazanova on the phone.

“My girlfriend is from Brazil and I from Kazakhstan. We might expect something like this in our own country but not in Amsterdam. And then it also happens during the Pride.” She states that they have been ‘lucky’. “This could have turned out so much worse.”
(Translated)

Een lesbisch koppel is zaterdagochtend in het centrum door twee mannen op een scooter in elkaar geslagen. De vrouwen hebben aangifte gedaan bij de politie, maar die meldde dat de kans dat de daders worden gepakt klein is.

“Oh, jullie zijn zo hot, mogen we met jullie meedoen?” Het is een vraag van twee mannen op een scooter aan Katya Sazanova (29) en haar vriendin Ana Camboim (26), beiden werkende expats in Amsterdam. Ze lopen rond 5.00 uur ’s ochtends in de Zandstraat, een smalle steeg, vlakbij de Zuiderkerk na een avond uit.

Het verliefde koppel loopt hand in hand, wat ze wel vaker doen in Amsterdam. Camboim geeft repliek. “Rot op, rijd gewoon door.” Het is voor de mannen reden om de vrouwen in elkaar te slaan.

Camboim krijgt een dreun in haar gezicht en valt op de grond. Ook haar vriendin wordt in haar gezicht geslagen. De vrouwen lopen beide blauwe plekken, een kapotte lip en een gezwollen neus op.

Voor het koppel is het een traumatische gebeurtenis. “Het was zo beangstigend. We hebben thuis alleen maar gehuild. Mensen kijken weleens op als we elkaars hand vasthouden, maar nog nooit zijn mensen fysiek geweest,” zegt Sazanova aan de telefoon.

“Mijn vriendin komt uit Brazilië en ik uit Kazachstan. We zouden misschien zoiets in ons eigen land verwachten maar niet in Amsterdam. En dan gebeurt het ook nog tijdens de Pride.” Ze stelt dat ze ‘geluk’ hebben gehad. “Dit had zoveel erger kunnen uitpakken.”
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Continue reading at: https://www.parool.nl/amsterdam/lesbisch-koppel-tijdens-pride-in-elkaar-geslagen-we-hebben-geluk-gehad~b742928c/ (Source)

Mexico: assault and arson after lesbian bar owner refused sex with man

La Canita

That night, one of them told one of the owners that “if I did not have sex with him, I was going to destroy the place,” says the published testimony. She tried to evade him, but the client continued to harass her until she decided to respond that she was a lesbian. “I’m never going to sleep with you and I will not give you more drink,” he replied, according to the story. The men – she does not specify how many – then demanded more beer from the workers and when they were denied, they took them by force, assaulted them, broke bottles and beat other customers.

“We know it was hatred and not an economic motivation that prompted these people to attack us in the way they did. The complaint is filed in the MP and some human rights processes are also ongoing, “the publication said.
(Translated)

Esa noche, uno de ellos le dijo a una de las dueñas que “si no tenía sexo con él, iba a desmadrar el lugar”, dice el testimonio publicado. Ella trató de evadirlo, pero el cliente continuó acosándola hasta que ella decidió responder que era lesbiana. “Nunca me voy a acostar contigo y no te voy a dar más trago”, le respondió, según se lee en el relato. Los hombres —no precisa cuántos— exigieron entonces más cerveza a las trabajadoras y cuando se los negaron, las tomaron por la fuerza, las agredieron, rompieron botellas y golpearon a otros clientes.

“Sabemos que fue el odio y no una motivación económica lo que impulsó a estas personas a agredirnos en la manera que lo hicieron. La denuncia está levantada en el MP y algunos procesos de derechos humanos también están en curso”, indica la publicación.
(Original)

Continue reading at: https://www.mexico.com/nuestras-causas/duenas-de-bar-lgbt-la-canita-denuncian-ataque-homofobico/ (Source)

Report released into new sexual coercion of lesbians

By Angela C Wild
Get the L Out UK

Lesbians at Ground Zero

“The consequence of systematic lesbian erasure, combined with the male centred politics of the LGBT, is a constant invasion: invasion of lesbian spaces and invasion of the lesbian body as the ultimate women-only space, leading to the destruction of those spaces and the consequent destruction of lesbianism.

While experiences of sexual violence were reported by women from every age group, the younger 18-24 age group seemed to be particularly targeted. The sexual violence experiences reported by respondents range from coercion, online grooming, sexual harassment and assault to rape by deception or with physical force. Perpetrators have used queer theory mixed with guilt-tripping to pressure, justify or excuse sexual violence.”

Continue reading at: Lesbians at Ground Zero link  (Source)

Harassment and teasing: what lesbians live in Peru

Carolia Silva Santisteban

If I go out with my girlfriend or with the girl that I am in that moment I have to consider in what district I am to know how expressive I am going to be for my integrity and the safety of the person who accompanies me. I have a male gender expression … I am exposed to teasing and insults.
(Translated)

Si yo salgo con mi novia o con la chica que estoy en ese momento tengo que considerar en qué distrito estoy para saber qué tan expresiva voy a ser por mi integridad y la seguridad de la persona que me acompaña. También está el acoso callejero. Tengo una expresión de género masculina… Estoy expuesta a burlas e insultos.
(Original)

Continue reading at: https://peru21.pe/peru/carolina-silva-santisteban-lesbiana-peru-464305 (Source)

Lesbian “gay bashing”

Lesbian "gay bashing"

Guest post by Kate Hansen, with thanks to the women who so generously shared their experiences.

 

For feedback or to share your experiences, please email Liz@listening2lesbians.com or message us at https://www.facebook.com/LlSTEN2LESBlANS/


I was in a Facebook lesbian group, when someone posted the question: “Have you ever been gay bashed?” The stories which followed gripped me and moved me.  I decided to pose the same question on other group pages, and I made sure to ask everyone if they would allow their stories to be shared anonymously online.  I felt like these were something which needed to be shared with a wider audience. I don’t know if people even know the level of violence and hate that lesbians face, even in the modern world.  It can be straight up physical violence, or it can be just a series of microaggressions which erode the soul over time. There was no clear distinction between regions represented, dykes in the UK face the same level of violence in the USA.  I do appreciate the uniqueness of the voices. Another thing to note is that the flat out physical violence seemed to happen to those who were gender non conforming or butch, while more feminine presenting women deal with classic sexual harassment.

This story is dynamic and changing.  I believe this is the tip of the iceberg, and we would like to ask for contributions to this project.  If you have experienced gay bashing as a lesbian, please write to us and share, care of Listening 2 Lesbians.

-Kate Hansen


Run over by a car, kidnapped and held for five days. 21 stab wounds, no food and very little water, raped repeatedly and left for dead on the side of the road. I lost contracts in business. Umm ya this is a very sensitive subject. The younger people in our community sometimes forget the sacrifices we’ve made so that they can enjoy the freedoms we have today. Not preaching, just pointing out how violent it once was.


Yes indeed in downtown Baltimore many moons ago but was told I was a waste of a woman. Hate has no room in my life.


As a butch lesbian, born and raised in Alabama and travel for a living, I’ve never been bashed, i have been called out in bathrooms more times than I can count, but once they realized who they’re speaking to they apologized. I also open carry.


Yup. Lost all “friends” in my neighbourhood, went thru 4 yrs of bitches calling me out nearly every day in high school even tho I never came out about it.  Recently blocked a cousin for sending me bible quotes and messages about being an abomination.️ I’m still on top. Honestly Millennials and Zs don’t know how easy they have it.


Got stones thrown at me I came out to a friend and she yelled out ew your gay and a guy heard and he started to throwing them or some Christians quoting bible and parents blaming my auntie about her being gay for me turning out gay.


I’ve had issues with former coworkers on my life choices. Once I was told I was the devil and I was going to hell. She wouldn’t work with me because she didn’t want to catch the gay.


Just the usual from family and sometimes complete strangers. Had one kid start yelling Faggots from his truck to an ex and I when we were driving together. Hit a stop light and he kept smirking until we started talking trash back very loudly. Made him look like an ass. He rolled up his window pretty quickly and turned down a side street. My ex was in the military and I’m built like Xena, so I think we scared him.


Had friends bashed leaving the bar. One friend almost got killed because they hit him with a baseball bat. Put him in a coma for two weeks. He left Tucson after he recovered.. Most of the drag queens carry mace or razors when they leave.


Yeah, 1970s lost jobs and evicted, raped, and TONS of verbal bashing in public places and I was like having the attitude and VOICE to say “FUCK OFF just because my women are hotter than what you get” OR I would say “Your mom didn’t think so last night.” WHEN IN PUBLIC they can’t hit you because the first blow is a violent attack and if I wait I can kick ’em in the nuts in self defense. Always wait to clip the nuts in self defense, then no charges can be pressed really.


Yeah. From the college I attended, as well as several revoked job opportunities when they found out I was gay. Oh and my dad trying to kill me, as well as being kicked out.


When there’s a violent male, the energy is usually directed at my butch partner. We’ve never been bashed, but we’ve gotten out of minor scrapes. For example, my butch ex and I were at a blues bar, and this man became irate with me because I didn’t want to dance with him. She said “buddy, she doesn’t want to dance, leave her alone”. He got annoyed, ok angry, that I chose to be with a butch female instead of him. We left after that. Someone mentioned that we should have got him kicked out, but honestly we just weren’t feeling it after that.

Also my ex husband was violent with me when he figured out that I’m gay.


My girlfriend and I had big rocks thrown at us from a passing pickup truck when we were holding hands walking down the street. She got chased by a man who saw us kissing goodbye at a greyhound station, and he was yelling at her that he would make her like dick while he was chasing her. We were also chased together once, after going to the park around midnight and not realizing there were other people there. This was all around 1992. I haven’t been bashed recently, but I’m more careful now.

I should add that 2 of these events happened in San Francisco.


Beat up by 3 men, 14 broken bones and won’t even say what they did to my girlfriend at the time. Something we couldn’t get over because of my guilt not being able to stop it.


I’m an intimidating bitch, I have issues with guys, I don’t take shit from nobody.

However it’s sad in a way that my family uses it against me when we fight or make stupid comments about gays

Fuck em anyways.

Can’t tell me they aren’t a bit curious!


I navigated the Army during the mid eighties – early nineties; before even “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” I was raped by 4 “fellow” soldiers; they knew they could get away with it; one accusation of homosexuality and my career was over.  We all stayed quiet about it; they didn’t go to prison; I didn’t get a dishonourable discharge……just a vicious case of PTSD.


I have when I lived in a homophobic city/country my dad and a few neighbours my mom shut him up and I confronted the bs with the neighbour’s kid and to say the mom was not happy with him is a understatement . After my mom passed I got thrown out and bounced sofa to sofa ’til I got my own place then was sexually assaulted by a downstairs neighbour and now I got real bad anxiety and ptsd but my ex gf doesn’t understand I don’t want to be around men too much, esp. straight guys like her brother, but you know fuck it I’m about to be out of here real.


Yup,  beat up by three dudes for being a ‘fucking dyke’ one thing I did learn is I can fly through the air like Superman  just need to work on my landing though!


Yes my son’s father told people, I mean like most of our little city that he don’t want that fruity shit around my son that my son is gonna be gay because of me, I’m making him gay! This is my first time ever being attacked like this … And for a dude that hasn’t been around in 5 yrs (my son is 5) but my girl has been around since my son’s first birthday … What the fuck is he, right?   But my god did this really hurt me horribly. I also think that my son’s father is in the closet and maybe mad that we are out and having a good life while he is still hiding. But that’s not my fault I’m a woman no matter what, I’m gonna be a woman whether I’m with a man or a woman, I do women shit everything I do know I’ve done my whole life. Not just since I’ve been with my girl .. I was sooooo offended and felt embarrassed that he went to everyone we know and said shit like this.  Hurts.


1 Circa 1987/88 was a student in Bradford. 21 years old living with a girlfriend, also student but we worked the same bar. She was a barmaid, me DJ. One night walking home from a night out socializing, playing pool, we came home early. 9pm. About 1 minute from our flat, crossing the pub car park neighbouring us, two men stepped out and confronted us. One grabbed g/f basically sexually assaulting her, I naturally objected and he threw a punch at me. Then, I was as strong and as fit as a butcher’s dog. (I can also box, dad taught me) I’m fortunate, know how to look after self and am risk savvy, but this happened so quick. Both men attacked me as I prevented them tearing my g/f’s clothes.One punched her to the side of the head, knocking her out. They both set about me, but realized that I was a going to be a hand full. Eventually, they ran off when they realized about 30 or so punters from the straight pub were onlookers. I got to my feet, picked my g/f up and managed to stagger back to the flat, where our housemates got us attention at hospital. Not one person intervened, watching. When the police questioned us at the hospital, they told us not one witness could be found at the pub! Indeed, they questioned us as to why we were out at that time of night!?! 9pm? My g/f needed stitches to a wound in her ear and I was concussed but the police were determined to dismiss me as drunk. I had been playing pool for the lesbian pub team…not a drop!

One other occasion, same city and about the same time, g/f and I had gone to dinner; celebrating something. We were walking to the lesbian/gay bar in town for ‘after’ when a group of young men, about 15 or so, started catcalling insults. Dykes, queers, etc. What we really needed, you know the score. They ran up to us and I told her to go ahead into the bar and not turn round and if not there in 5 get help! For once, she, reluctantly did as she was told, as she knew what was going to happen, and she had never left me in a situation like that. I turned to face the group but no reasoning was to be had they simply piled on me and began punching, kicking etc. So, I did what I was taught in those situations, God Bless my working class, dog tough old dad, he was a bastard but as hard as nails! I latched onto the biggest by sinking my teeth into his crotch. Face protected, head tucked right into his groin so they could kick me, but he was getting it too. It seemed like forever, but the police came, called by Sarah et al. The mob ran off. Leaving me and the big lad locked on the pavement! I was dazed to say the least and he was yelping like a scalded puppy! Police were going to arrest me for assault, as seemingly, as one police officer said, I could have seriously injured the poor lad biting him there! No witnesses, no admissions from the lesbophobic shit who had started the beating, just me looking bruised and battered. I didn’t cut easily, so must not have been as bad in their opinion. Wouldn’t listen to us…I was a student teacher, my g/f a student social worker, he was a knuckle dragging arsehole, but male so must tell the truth. This was West Yorkshire, 30 years ago, at the height of Clause 28, where attitudes were shocking. However, this is the same constabulary, hounding women for saying there is no such thing as men becoming women! In my early 50s we are experiencing a blatant openness in aggression towards us. This Brexit debacle is emboldening the ignorant, vicious bigots who have lain dormant for so many years.

So many other occasions. Verbal to physical. I’m fortunate, I know how I react in these situations and as old as I get know that my mentality won’t change. My lesbianism is sacrosanct, my love and obligation to protect my partner has meant she has been spared this, as I would lay my life down to protect her, and she knows that. Lesbians need to ally with each other; women. Not men, not interested in what they think they know about us, we must take lessons from what has happened, carrying it into the present so that this blatant aggression surfacing against us doesn’t take us by surprise. It has always been thus!


The really bad one was in 2009 in Thousand Oaks, CA. I had been working on my car all evening replacing the starter, oil change etc., finally finishing around 11 pm. So I took the car out for a drive to see how it was running. I was sitting at a stop light waiting when all of the sudden I was rear ended. The light turns green so I pull through the intersection and then pull over to the side. I get out of the car and start walking to the back to car check the damage and swap information if needed. I never saw him coming because I was looking at my bumper he sucker punched me in the jaw. Next thing I remember I’m waking up on the road in a pool of my own vomit with my rainbow sticker on the ground next to me.

I ended having a broken jaw and a few facial fractures. However that was the last time anyone landed a hand on me, like that.

He did get caught a few months later because he did it again but this time was a gay man that had a camera in his car that caught the license plate of the guy. He was never charged with my incident because no evidence.


I was head butted by a skinhead, I’d left the Pride march, with a few others, to use the loo & when I came out there was a bunch of skinheads waiting outside the mens toilets & a couple outside the women’s. One of them called me a queer & tried to head butt me in the face, but he was way too tall and caught me on the forehead/top of the head, I was shocked more than hurt & I just took of running as fast as I could (I’d have given FloJo a run for her money) I wanted to shout a warning to anyone else in the toilets, but my voice wouldn’t work. It took me ages to get back to the Pride march – I’d run off in the wrong direction & the 1985 London Pride was nowhere near the size it is now – not so many qweer hetz. When I found the women I’d gone to the loos with, they’d come out in a group so they weren’t attacked, just verbal abuse & they’d forgotten me. I’ve had abuse shouted at me in the street, threatened & spat at, but that’s the worst physical violence I’ve suffered for being a lesbian. I have friends who were beaten up coming out of gay clubs & pubs.


Rocks thrown through windows, rainbow flag burned, all windows in both vehicles in driveway shattered and anti-gay language scrawled all over both cars with a sharpie

Motorcycle knocked to the ground

Contents of truck stolen and thrown into the streets of the neighbourhood

Happened around 1AM


When I came out in middle school a boy in my band class would hit me in the head on a daily basis with his drumstick and call me a nasty dyke. Another boy on my school bus would sit next to me and describe how it would feel to suck his dick the whole ride home. I was too scared to report him.


Yes, I’ve been bashed physically by some men; by the police and then the regular verbal butch bashings as well. I think the first time was coming out of a gay bar in my 20s. We were confronted by a group of young men who yelled and threw rocks at us and cornered us. I remember, thinking, why? Why is who I love a concern of yours? It’s inane. As a butch, the verbal lashings have been a constant fare in my life.


Coming out of the Blue Goose, a gay bar in Des Moines, in 1976-77 ish, carloads of straight high school boys would drive by repeatedly shouting slurs. One carload followed me as I walked to my car one night. Thankfully they didn’t do anything except yell. Long ago, far away.


I had  a neighbourhood kid set fire in my house in 1980. She had found out I am a lesbian. 


Several times over my lifetime, but the one time it was pretty bad was after my two friends and I had attended a show in Seattle (I think it might have been Concrete Blonde) and we were walking back to the car and walked past a group of young teens, about 5-6 young men and one woman.  The young woman said “which one of you’s the man???!!! fuckin’ dykes” and my friend who was a smartass (and stupidly risky) said “I am, and aren’t I cute??” and that woman did not like being sassed, so she ran after my friend and started beating her up and my other friend and I tried intervening, but every time we tried to protect our friend, the young men would kick us from behind and knock us down.  We felt trapped and fighting for our lives when we ran up to a bus that was parked at a bus stop and begged the driver to help us. The driver didn’t give a shit and refused to call the cops or help. But luckily, since there were people on the bus and multiple witnesses, the attackers took off. We got back to car and went to the hospital… the one friend had two broken ribs and my other one had a broken wrist, and my back was all bruised from being kicked in the back.  I was truly afraid they would kill us.


I was physically knocked down by a very large man when I was in New York visiting my family. This was maybe 12 yrs ago. My sister and I were walking home from the train and it was in the early evening. A really large wild haired dude came up to us and said Hello ladies. We said nothing back to him and he became irate very quickly. Then he looked at me and said Oh this one’s not a lady! I looked at him and said Fuck you! My sister and I started walking quickly ahead of him but he came up behind us screaming and yelling his head off and then he knocked me down. I fell on the ground, got back up but my hand was injured as I had fallen on it. My sister and I ran really fast and we were able to get away from him. We went to the police later and reported it and they drove around trying to find him. It was a fairly small town, my home town in NY. But they could not find him. In retrospect I think we were in a lot more danger than we realized at the moment. He was like a powder keg of  rage just looking for someone to go off on. Luckily we got away from him but my hand was injured for quite a while after that because my fingers had gotten pushed backward. It’s still scary when I think about it now, his rage.

Now as I write this I’m thinking that that was probably the first and only time in my life that I felt insulted not to be considered a “lady.”


Having people yell “fag” and “dyke” out of cars while walking with my girlfriends.

Having cars full of college age boys honk at us, pull over in front of us as we were walking on the side of the road late at night, open their doors and start to get out to scare us before driving off (or maybe someone in the car talked them out of it.)

Being told “What you should be holding is a dick” by a young male stranger while holding hands on the street.

Being harassed by my girlfriend’s farm boss about my “sexy” clothes one day, and hearing him say he loved saying that stuff to lesbians in particular. When I told others in the farming community about it, they fired me from my volunteer job, said they didn’t believe me and shunned me.

There are others I’d rather not recall or I’ve selectively forgotten.

I’ve lost more than 3 jobs over issues related to being a lesbian, also. People in general become more suspicious of me if I come out to them, even if they act accepting at first, and will sew all kinds of weird rumors about me & bash my reputation behind my back, the moment it would be convenient to silence me. Which really poisons communities against you and makes it difficult to hold your head up and move freely.

I’ve had men act like they were going to hit me, mostly for telling them to leave my gf alone when they were too persistent in bars and she didn’t have the nerve to, but when they turn around and actually look at me, they suddenly don’t want to hit anymore! I’m very small and usually pretty girl-looking, I think they realize it would be absurd.

It’s a constant series of daily microaggressions for me that have affected my life & forced me to have many career paths, put crushing stress on my relationships & given me diagnosed C-PTSD. If I could trade all that for getting hit once or twice, I would!


When I was about 28 I was leaving a gay bar in Buffalo NY, as I was unlocking my car a guy grabbed me around my neck from behind…he called me homophobic slurs and told me he was going to show me a real man…it was summer and very warm, all I had on was a tank top and shorts, he ripped them off of me, punched and slapped me  several times and raped me vaginally and annally…I did not scream, it was in the back of a very dark parking lot…all I did was cry…he threatened to kill me as he left….i was able to crawl back to the bar, bloodied and naked…the few women in the bar took me in, they locked the door, cleaned me up and found me some clothes…we did not call the police out of fear, they called my lover who came and picked me up.

I did not know who he was, nor had I ever seen him before…a few weeks later at work I started getting notes and threats left on my desk at work…this went on for weeks and I was terrified…this was in 1978 and there was nowhere to go to complain, if the company had known I was gay I would have lost my job, so I suffered for many months and eventually quit my job.  The man that raped me was someone I worked with, but I was never able to figure out who he was (big company)…I never went out again alone, received no mental health help, just suffered…My lover, a very large male identified butch, protected and shielded me as did our friends from the bar….but the rape and harassment I keep locked up inside of me for more than 20 years, finally I received therapy and am able to reconcile internally what happened, but it never goes away, it is always there lurking in the back of my mind…


I expected and was heavily defended against the gay bashing and was bashed several times. But what hurt me the most was the butch bashing from within the lesbian community. There was a woman who professed to be a Wiccan witch, who never, ever miss the opportunity to remind myself and others about how male identified I was.  How unacceptable that was, to be a lesbian within a lesbian community and male identify. At the time I was a total separatist. I had no man in my life. I had no interest in them. But the fact that I dressed and conducted myself without femininity, did not rely on any kind of feminine tricks, meant I was male identified. The most devastating Butch bashing, for me, came from my feminist sisters. Ultimately I decided that the wiccans weren’t any nicer than the Christians and let them all go.


I have been shot at, had a person try to kill me by stabbing me with an ice pick, had brake lines cut, lug nuts loosened, been threatened lots back in the day.  Got bashed by women also–“Baby Killer” because I wanted to keep my military job. Lost custody of my daughter because the judge thought she should experience a “real traditional family.”  Didn’t see her for 3 years. There’s more, but I won’t bore you.


1. Yelled at “dyke!” In a shopping mall …

2. Nearly run over by a guy in a car…

3. Threatened with rape by a couple of straight teenage boys who grabbed my breasts and shirt.

4. Three drunk Gay men threatened to rape me. “Hey cunt, you just need a man! stop being such an angry bulldyke. We know a man who will make you like men! Hah hah!

5. Transwoman raped me. ” this will teach you!! You are a bad girl and you made me mad! And don’t you dare say no nasty butch dyke!”

6. Transwoman raped me. “You owe me. I took you to a party, you stupid Lez, you f-ing dyke!!”!

7. Construction workers yelling dyke! Etc.

I have a hella PTSD. And I find most LGBT people are actually not aware of or sensitive to the fact that gay men and transwomen can be misogynistic and lesbophobic and / or rapists or sexual harassment or assault perpetrators.


I’ve been followed when I left a gay bar.  Had to outrun them, first on foot, then in my car.  I finally made it to a police station. I didn’t think that the cops would help me, but I hoped that the men chasing me thought otherwise.  They did give up the chase and I never had to directly interact with those cops. Another time a girlfriend and I had very sinister men calling us slurs for lesbian and woman while coming at us.  We ended up dodging cars (on foot) across a highway to get away from them.


While working@ amazon warehouse on lane letter D someone was trying to close/open pallets and looking for small boxes of like d005 and large boxes for d026 or something and I’m doing a 2 person conveyor job with my back turned and the young republican who during election time routinely yelled “hail trump” and “trump is god” and loved WWE yelled “oh here’s a big D for you, need another one? There’s a D right here!”

I believe that was simple harassment but I reported it instantly and when leaving work he and a friend attempted to run me off the road!

Also had a “queer” female with a “he/him” nametag give me this line following my refusal to declare my pronouns to “him” she went on to say how she never would have guessed I’m a lesbian and went on to talk about how she “used to be a lesbian” and that felt grimey AF to me.


Was out @ 14 so got gum in my hair a lot, probably why I refuse to shave my head ever to prove any point ever because I meticulously cut those candies out of my hair about 4x/mo


I was out with women friends for my 21st birthday. We were all dancing. This guy kept offering to buy me drinks and wanting my number. I repeatedly and politely told him thanks but I wasn’t interested. He kept trying so I finally told him I’m gay. He then became verbally abusive saying  I thought I was too good for him and hoped I got raped. Thankfully his friends pulled him away and they left. I was shaken and thankful my friends were there.


 

Nashville, USA: Man attacks lesbian

Nashville lesbophobic attack

A lesbian in Nashville, Tennessee is hoping there are consequences for the man who attacked her and her car after she rebuffed his advances. Bailey Cantrell was at a Kwik Sak gas station near Centennial Park when the man approached her. She said her friend was inside while she waited by the car when the man came up, calling her names and asking for her phone number.

‘After I declined, still a little bit mad, then the second I declined the third time and said “I’m gay, I’m just not interested,” that’s when it triggered him and he got very aggressive,’ she told Wave3 News. Security camera footage shows the man jumping onto the car, while Cantrell was in it, and kicking in the windshield.

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Amazon Studios exec resigns following lesbian producer’s sexual harassment accusations

Last week, producer Isa Hackett came forward with her accusations against Price. In 2015, Hackett was at San Diego Comic-Con with Price to promote the Amazon series The Man in the High Castle. The series is based on the work of Hackett’s late father, Philip K. Dick. Hackett is also an executive producer.

While in a taxi with Price, Hackett alleges he propositioned her, telling her: ‘You will love my dick.’

Later at a party, Price reportedly went up to Hackett and loudly proclaimed, ‘Anal sex!’

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Grand Canyon National Park’s first openly lesbian superintendent visits Boulder at Conference on World Affairs

The first openly lesbian superintendent of Grand Canyon National Park, Chris Lehnertz, came to CU Boulder on Friday. She talked about the future of the National Park Service and her role in fixing ongoing sexual harassment issues in the organization.

Moderated by Lori Bergen, founding dean of CU’s College of Media, Communication and Information, Lehnertz’s talk, titled “An Insider’s Scoop on America’s National Parks,” was part of this year’s Conference on World Affairs at CU.During the event, Lehnertz talked about park management, outreach and diversity efforts. She spoke openly about a sexual harassment scandal between park employees that came to light shortly before she was hired. The ensuing investigation uncovered a pattern of sexual harassment going back 15 years. In the wake of that investigation, Lehnertz’s main goal as superintendent is “to build a respectful and inclusive workplace.”

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