Tag Archives: Lesbophobia

France: Father who attacked 17 year old lesbian daughter given suspended sentence

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A 46-year-old father was sentenced to six months’ suspended imprisonment for violence against his daughter but also for threatening police officers. The man, who lives in Saint-Etienne (Loire) had in September, broken the nose of his child, on the pretext that she was homosexual . “When your daughter hides for two years that she is a lesbian, it deserves a slap,” argued the forty-year-old.

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Un père de famille de 46 ans a été condamné à six mois de prison avec sursis pour des violences exercées sur sa fille mais aussi pour avoir menacé des policiers. L’homme, qui réside à Saint-Etienne (Loire) avait au mois de septembre, cassé le nez de son enfant, sous prétexte qu’elle était homosexuelle. « Quand votre fille vous cache depuis deux ans qu’elle est lesbienne, ça mérite bien une claque », a argumenté le quadragénaire.

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Continue reading at: https://www.20minutes.fr/societe/2421575-20190114-saint-etienne-six-mois-sursis-avoir-casse-nez-fille-lesbienne (Source)

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India: Odisha registers first lesbian marriage, bride’s father blames black magic

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In a first, since the Supreme Court decriminalised homosexuality on September 6, 2018, a lesbian couple got married legally on Saturday at Kendrapara in Odisha. But the father of one of the brides said it was all a big conspiracy and a lot of black magic. He lodged a complaint with the Pattamundai Police Station on Monday alleging that his daughter is innocent and is under a spell of black magic.
Police have said that the couple will be interrogated in connection with the matter. “The girl will be interrogated to ascertain whether she has been forced to maintain the relationship with the other girl or it was her own choice,” Pramod Mallick, IIC of Pattamundai Police Station, said.

Continue reading at: https://www.edexlive.com/news/2019/
jan/14/odisha-registers-first-lesbian-marriage-brides-father-blames-black-magic-5031.html
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US: Musician The Weeknd accused of lesbophobic lyrics

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The Weeknd has found himself in some controversy after the release of his collaboration with producer Gesaffelstein, ‘Lost In The Fire’, with some citing that some of his lyrics are homophobic.

The lyrics in question centre around a pretty explicit couple of lines in the second verse, where The Weeknd sings “you’re going through a phase” and “i can f*ck you straight.”

Continue reading at: https://musicfeeds.com.au/news/the-weeknd-accused-of-homophobic-lyrics-in-new-song/ (Source)

US: 11 year old girls bullied for assumed lesbian relationship take their own lives

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The heartbroken parents of two 11-year-old best friends, who committed suicide within months of each other, believe that the girls were bullied by their classmates because they were questioning their sexuality and called each other ‘girlfriend’.

Continue reading at: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6573309/Parents-tell-tragedy-daughters-bullied-came-out.html (Source)

U.S: Man harassed, assaulted lesbian couple at Seahawks game

SEATTLE – King County prosecutors have accused a 34-year-old Tacoma man of harassing a lesbian couple for their sexual orientation at a Seahawks game last month, groping one of the women and punching the other in the face.

Continue reading at: https://komonews.com/news/local/charges-man-harassed-assaulted-lesbian-couple-at-seahawks-game (source)

U.K: Methodists speak out in support of lesbian couple targeted by homophobic card on Christmas Eve

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A couple have spoken of their shock at receiving a homophobic card which was delivered to their family home on Christmas Eve.
Claire and her fiancé Sarah – not their real names – were horrified when they read the ‘creepy’ card which states: ‘Lesbian is disgusting and filth unnatural abnormal”
The card has been signed ‘Methodist Church’ and also includes the pre-printed message: “Blessings of the Season”.
The couple say they are completely bewildered at being targeted by the bizarre and ‘cowardly’ homophobic abuse.

Continue reading at: https://www.manchestereveningnews.co.
uk/news/greater-manchester-news/disgusting-homophobic-card-sent-lesbian-15635713
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Update

Local Methodists have condemned the incident and say their desire is for a church which is fully inclusive.

Continue reading at: https://www.manchestereveningnews.co.
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New Zealand: MP Attacks Lesbians On Twitter

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New Zealand’s government, led by the same party who brought us same-sex marriage legislation in 2013, is now playing an active role in dismantling lesbian rights.

Continue reading at: https://www.afterellen.com/general-news/568549-new-zealand-mp-attacks-lesbians-on-twitter-a-disturbing-trend (source)

Cameroon: Homophobia derails a lesbian’s pro sports career

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Homophobia in sports: Because of public pressure and fear of lesbians, a star athlete is barred from every football (soccer) club in Cameroon. Now she’s trying to get back in the game.

Continue reading at: https://76crimes.com/2019/01/03/cameroon-homophobia-derails-a-pro-sports-career/ (source)

U.S: Man Breaks Woman’s Spine in Anti-Lesbian Hate Crime

A homophobic [man] sucker-punched a woman on a train, sending her to the hospital with a broken spine – all because he thought she was a lesbian, cops said Saturday.

Continue reading at: https://www.nydailynews.com/news/crime/
ny-metro-homophobe-punches-woman-broken-spine-20181208-story.html
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Texas, USA: San Antonio Four convictions wiped after false anti-lesbian claims led to years in jail

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A Bexar County judge on Monday signed papers erasing the criminal histories of four women wrongly convicted in 1994 of sexually assaulting two girls, according to a News4 report.  Elizabeth Ramirez, Kristie Mayhugh, Cassandra Rivera, and Anna Vasquez — known as the “San Antonio Four” during coverage of their high-profile case — were wrongly convicted of gang-raping Ramirez’s nieces, then 7 and 9. The women had recently come out as lesbians, which prosecutors seized on as a motive.

Ultimately, they served 15 years in prison.

 

Continue reading at: https://www.sacurrent.com/the-daily/archives/2018/12/03/judge-clears-the-record-for-the-wrongly-convicted-san-antonio-four (Source)

Florida, US: Pipebomb accused identified but not arrested over alleged attack on lesbian couple

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The Miami Herald reports that lesbian couple Indiana Parra and Rimbow Gomez were riding a moped together on March 16 when they allegedly had urine thrown at them by a man driving a white Dodge Ram van covered in extreme political stickers. The couple say that the man pulled alongside their moped and threw two cups of urine at them, soaking Gomez, before yelling, “Get off the road, dykes!” The two women explained that when they pulled away, the man chased them in his van, swerving in an apparent attempt to run them off the road.

Police identified Cesar Sayoc but didn’t arrest him.

Continue reading at: https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2018/11/30/cesar-sayoc-pipe-bomb-lesbian-urine/ (Source)

Texas, USA: UT Officials banned dorm visitors for lesbian student

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A freshman at the University of Texas in Austin says she feels unsafe in her dormitory after officials told her she could no longer have visitors because she’s gay. Freshman Kaj Baker lives in Scottish Rite Dormitory, a private, off-campus facility that provides all-female housing to UT students. Baker told Texas News Channel (video above) that she used to study with her girlfriend — who lives elsewhere — in the lounge of the dorm. However, Baker was called into a meeting with dorm director Mary Mazurek, who told her that other residents were uncomfortable with the couple’s relationship.

Continue reading at: http://www.outsmartmagazine.com/2018/11/dorm-bars-gay-ut-student-from-having-visitors-because-other-residents-are-uncomfortable/ (Source)

Maryland, US: 4 suspects unidentified in year old attack on lesbian at Hyattsville high school

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The principal at Northwestern High School in Hyattsville, Md. says a school investigation into the March 2017 assault by at least four male students on an 11th grade lesbian student, which resulted in the student suffering three broken ribs, has been unable to identify the attackers.

Lidia Reyes, the mother of the lesbian student, contacted the Washington Blade about the incident last month, saying the attack came after her daughter had been the target of bullying and harassment by fellow students. She said school officials weren’t taking adequate steps to address the problem.

Reyes said her daughter reported the attack occurred in the school auditorium on March 23, 2017. But Principal Elaine Carlene Murray told the Blade the auditorium was not open on that day and school security officials could not confirm exactly where the incident took place.

Plymouth, UK: Man “punches lesbian in face after she rejects him”

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A man reportedly punched a lesbian in the face and called her a “Spanish whore” after she rejected him, a court has heard. Olarenwaju Adetunji, who allegedly said that homosexuality is “unnatural,” is on trial at Plymouth Crown Court for assaulting the 26-year-old woman in August 2017, reports Plymouth Live.  The unnamed woman told the court she had let Adetunji sleep in her king-sized bed on August 16 last year, so that he did not have to walk back to his home in Keyham as he was up early in the morning. She said that Adetunji knew about her sexuality.

Continue reading at: https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2018/11/14/man-punch-lesbian-face-plymouth-whore/ (Source)

Edmonton, Canada: Lesbian kiss “Not allowed” at White Stripes concert

 

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“I embraced my girlfriend, and some staff member came in between us, and she said, ‘This is not allowed here,'” MacIvor said. The usher placed her hand in between them and asked them to stop, MacIvor said. “It was very violating and invasive,” MacIvor said. “It’s not something I’d ever imagine experiencing, honestly.” The usher then escorted them to talk to a manager. After telling the manager what happened, the employee was told to resume her post.

Continue reading at: https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/edmonton/rogers-place-kiss-jack-white-concert-lgbtq-community-shocked-1.4893318 (Source)

West Sumatra, Indonesia: 10 women arrested for ‘being lesbians’

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Police said the women were arrested on Sunday (November 4) on suspicion of “lesbian deviant behaviour.” In a statement, head of police Pol Yadrison explained that intelligence authorities had been monitoring the women’s activities on social media.

Yadrison said that one of the women’s Facebook account showed her “kissing and cuddling” with another woman, as if they were “men and women.” “From this discovery the officer finally conducted a search and managed to find the identity and whereabouts of the photo uploader,” said Yadrison.

Continue reading at: https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2018/11/06/indonesia-women-arrested-lesbians/ (Source)

Australia: Lesbophobic graffiti sprayed in Tasmanian town

Just a day after the unveiling of a new bench in Parliament Gardens in Hobart to commemorate Tasmania’s progress on LGBTI human rights, anti-lesbian graffiti has appeared in the NW Coast town of Penguin.
The phrase “No lesbians in Penguin” was spray-painted in large black letters across the retaining wall between the beach and the town.

Continue reading at: https://www.outinperth.com/homophobic-graffiti-sprayed-tasmanian-town/ (source)

U.K: Lesbian Couple Battles Hotel’s Lesbophobic Comments

A lesbian couple staying in an English hotel were “in shock” when they received an email from the owner that claimed “people like you should be put in a cage with the rest of the wild animals.”

Continue reading at: http://southfloridagaynews.com/World/
lesbian-couple-battles-hotel-s-anti-gay-comments.html
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Thoughts on the words “queer” and “lesbian” from a twenty-two year old who only connects to one of them

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Guest Post by Erin

It started in 6th grade with an offhand comment to a classmate I thought was my friend. We were in our one shared class, gym, talking about – as girls of this age often did – boys. I never understood why so many hours could be spent talking about them. Sure, some were cool, and they were my friends, but why are we always talking about them? Aren’t there cooler things going on?

Confessing this confusion was my first mistake. An offhand comment led to a rumor that persisted in at least some form for seven years and led to nearly a decade of strong and unrelenting self-hatred. “Who do you like?” she asked, as we did jumping jacks in gym. Unable to pick a random boy fast enough, I answered simply “I don’t like boys yet.” Spoiler alert: even though I pretended to because girls are supposed to like boys, I never did start liking them.

This wasn’t so strange, right? I was only eleven. Didn’t I have better things to worry about then whether or not the cute boy that sat next to me in math looked at me? Was it so strange I was more interested in staring at numbers than boys?

Yes. It was. Soon after this small conversation in the middle of warm-ups in our tiny gym, I first heard it. “Lesbian,” they called me. I didn’t understand why. Of course I knew what a lesbian was. My parents were pretty progressive and didn’t shelter me from things like this. A lesbian is a girl who only likes other girls. But that wasn’t me. I just didn’t like boys yet. That didn’t mean I liked girls. This logic didn’t stop them. They continued, among other taunts, to call me a “lesbian,” the most common taunt.

I started liking boys. I pretended to, at least. I was so good at pretending that I fooled myself. It didn’t matter that I barely knew these boys. Every other girl liked him. I did too. It didn’t matter the thought of actually talking or getting close to him created an uncomfortable feeling in my stomach. That was just the butterflies, right? Easier to pretend with were the few boys I was friends with. I was mostly comfortable around them, and I liked talking to them. That’s all a relationship was supposed to be right? We were friends. I could like him and not have to do anything about it for fear of “ruining the friendship.” Just because I never did anything about these crushes didn’t mean I didn’t actually like boys. I was just shy.

The taunts continued. I still didn’t understand. I had relented; I was behaving like a normal girl should. I could point to a growing list of crushes as evidence. This was when I began to understand. I was using the wrong definition of the word “lesbian.” Their definition, the definition they were trying to communicate when they threw the word at me with a sneer and hate in their eyes, was much darker. To them, a lesbian is a girl who only likes girls. But that’s not all they meant. A lesbian is also gross. She’s dirty. She’s wrong and predatory. A lesbian is someone unworthy of love or kindness. The only part of this they didn’t know or care to communicate was the “girl who only likes girls” part.

I understood now. I was gross. I was dirty. I was wrong and predatory. I was unworthy of love and kindness. When this definition became known to me, it’s the one that started to bury itself into my brain every time I heard the insult. Every time I saw one of the ones that called me it. I started to withdraw. I talked less. I stopped hanging out with friends so much. I began to see myself as they did. At age eleven, I began to believe I was gross, dirty, wrong, and predatory. I didn’t deserve love and kindness.

When you are eleven, and your brain is still developing, it develops with the environment you are in. Despite a loving family, I was losing friends and surrounded by hate for most of my day. So I started to internalize it. I isolated myself from the love I believed I didn’t deserve. I hated myself, most of the kids at school hated me, even my friends started forgetting about me the more I ignored their texts and invitations.

All of this started because I was known as the lesbian of the school. I was terrified of this word. It was scary and ugly every time I saw it. It reminded me of all the torment I faced at school, and later online. There are never positive stories about lesbians. They’re beaten up or murdered in the news. They are a porn category for men online. They are mocked in public. They are predatory monsters in movies and television Every time I saw the word lesbian, I believed more and more than lesbian meant someone dirty, predatory, and unworthy.

Fast forward seven years and I’m in college. I don’t know anyone here. No one here knows me. I don’t have to be what I’ve been told I am all these years. Then something terrifying happens. A couple friends I reconnected with take me to a meeting of the campus LGBT club. Suddenly I’m surrounded by people who are what I’ve been called all my life, and they don’t fit the definition of “lesbian” I had had forced upon me. They are women who like other women. They aren’t gross or predatory or unworthy. Scarier still, I realize I may be like them.

Years of telling myself I was all parts of the definition of “lesbian” except the only true definition caught up with me. I avoid this word at all costs. I am pansexual. No, I am asexual. No, I am bisexual. No, I am bisexual with a preference for women. No, I am bisexual with a strong preference for women. No, I am bisexual with a very strong preference for women. No, I…suddenly realize I am what I’ve been avoiding.

I am a lesbian. So, what does this word mean now? Does it still mean dirty, predatory, and unworthy? I don’t know. I don’t think it does, not anymore. At least not fully. I am nineteen now, and the fears I held at age eleven aren’t so scary anymore. I begin to reach out. I follow lesbians online. I look for positive representation in media. I start to identify with the word bit by bit.

But then, I’m back in school after winter break ends and there are people all around and now the fears I held at age eleven seem more real. I start throwing up every day and making jokes about my sexuality. If I make jokes about it then it’s not so scary and I can maybe eventually confront it, right? But the jokes don’t stop and neither does the throwing up. I wasn’t okay. But I was trying to be.

I begin to have more lesbians in my life. I follow more lesbians on Tumblr and other social media. I join some lesbian-centric Facebook groups. I find a musical celebrating what it is to be a butch lesbian. I watch rom-coms where lesbians get to end up happy. I listen to lesbian singers. I meet and work with lesbians at my summer job, and see them being happy and secure.

Lesbian begins to take on a whole new meaning for me. These women I know, through work or the Internet, through stories on stage or screen, aren’t what I’ve been told and internalized a lesbian is my whole life. They are not gross or predatory or unworthy. These women are strong. They are powerful. They are full of love and light and confidence in who they are. They have people who love them.

And I am like them. I am strong and powerful and full of love and light. I am worthy. “Lesbian” is no longer a scary concept for me. I am a lesbian, and no one will take that away from me ever again. Being a lesbian is a beautiful thing to be. I am proud.

But as I began to assert my new proud identity, words like “gay” and “lesbian” and “bisexual” started to disappear. The new word that took their place was the word “queer.” Originally meaning words like strange, odd, ruin, and spoil, the word became used as a slur against the LGBT community. Slurs typically have a way of becoming reclaimed. They are taken from the negative group and turned into a war cry.

Suddenly, so many things are becoming queer. More and more people are dropping more “standard” LGBT identities and choosing to identify as queer. There aren’t lists of lesbian, or bi, or trans, or gay, or LGBT musicians – there are lists of queer musicians. The formerly “gay & lesbian” section has become the “queer” section. The LGBT groups are disappearing, and queer groups are taking their place. In retrospect, this isn’t such a bad idea. Reclaiming slurs can be a powerful concept, and reclaiming them on such a large scale can show more power. But forcing people to identify with the term, even accidentally, isn’t powerful – it takes away their personal choice.

I never identified as queer. To those that do, you have my full support and your identity should be celebrated. But your identity isn’t my identity. I spent eight years hating myself for even being assumed a lesbian. I spent another year terrified when I discovered I actually was. To me, lesbian is a powerful word. Lesbian is a word that can be twisted into something so ugly if you let it. And I let it. But then, I twisted it into something beautiful, and I became something beautiful.

I spent seven years being called a lesbian in the worst way by people who did not know me. I let them take the best way, the true way, away from me to. The day I decided that I am a proud, bold, unapologetic, unafraid lesbian was the day that I forgave my childhood self for being so miserable and self-hating. It was the day I found myself. It was the day I fell in love with myself. It was the scariest and most freeing day of my life. No one will ever take this beautiful, bold, proud word away from me again

Queer is like this for so many people. Queer is their identity. It is their support system. It is their connector with other people who are like them in a world that is not kind to people like them. An identity like this is so important for a person’s wellbeing. We need to connect with people like us, because it is hard to survive in a world that doesn’t want people like us.

Expecting everyone to identify with this word is when it becomes dangerous. Calling everyone who falls under the “not cis and/or straight” umbrella queer erases all these other beautiful, powerful identities. So much negativity is placed on words like bisexual, transgender, pansexual, gay, and lesbian. Proudly identifying with these terms is powerful. It is taking our power back from those who tried to take it from us. Queer is also a word that was made negative, and is now being used in a positive way.

Continue to take back the words they took from us. But let everyone do it in their own way.

I am twenty-two now, and the fears I had at eleven and later at nineteen no longer hold power over me. I still hold them, and I still remember them. On my worst days, they try to creep back into my mind. On these days, I remember the miserable girl I was at eleven. She survived and blossomed. On these days, I remember the terrified woman I was at nineteen. She survived despite her fear and fell in love with herself. On these days, I know the woman I am at twenty-two. She will survive, and become the person the miserable eleven year old needed, and the terrified nineteen year old found.

Belgium: Lesbian couple victim of lesbophobic violence in asylum centre

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‘From day one we already got threats. In one way or another the news spread very quickly that a lesbian couple was staying in the center. Since then, we are being chased and spitting at our feet. Once they threw balls at us, which caused me to suffer scrapes.But it quickly became a lot worse, “says an emotional Gona. 

The couple say she feels unsafe. ‘Our first room was completely behind the asylum center, far away from the employees. If something went wrong, it took a long time before an employee could come on the spot. ‘ They say it did not help that they were so far away from the employees. ‘In the evening only two staff members are present for the complete asylum center. If it goes wrong here, then all help will come too late. ” 

They were offered another room. But when they went to visit, the residents who stayed in the new hallway did not want to let them through. “A lesbian couple is not welcome in their ‘department'”.

Continue reading at: https://zizo-online.be/article/13252 (Source – Dutch)

Lesbian couple victim of LGBT violence in asylum center ZiZo-Online (Translated pdf – English)