Author Archives: ListeningAri

Cameroon: Lesbian made homeless by lesbophobic brother

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Earlier this month a 27-year-old Cameroonian woman suddenly found herself on the street, barred from her family home, after her older brother learned about her love for another woman.

Continue reading: https://76crimes.com/2019/06/24/
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Lesbian. by Lisa Luxx

“A poem about the public lesbian experience and how the word ‘lesbian’ has become so hostile it is even taboo among our own communities, and outside our community it is mostly used as a slur or a porn category. Dedicated to the victims of increased hate crimes this pride. Filmed and directed by Tamara al-Mashouk.”

Words by Lisa Luxx.

U.K: Lesbian verbally harassed on Ryanair flight ‘and crew did nothing’

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Laura Muldoon tweeted a photograph of a group of men she alleges called her ‘lesbo’, ‘dyke’ and ‘miserable bitch’ as she boarded her flight from Stansted to Seville, Spain, on Wednesday.

Laura, who works as the social media manager at the Museum of London, sarcastically tweeted:
‘First holiday snap!
‘Of this bunch of lads who chanted that I was a “miserable bitch”, “dyke” and “lesbo” (very well observed!) on @Ryanair flight 12.27 from Stansted to Seville today.
‘Oh yeah, flight crew did nothing.’

Continue reading: https://metro.co.uk/2019/06/20/woman-called-lesbo-bh-rowdy-men-ryanair-flight-crew-nothing-10016694/ (source)

Chile: The Red Zone: A place where butch lesbians live in fear

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Three mysterious deaths and dozens of violent attacks on butch lesbians, or camionas, have put lesbians in Chile’s Fifth region on red alert.

“We call the Fifth region Chile’s red zone for lesbians because of María, Nicole and Susana,” says Karen Vergara. “There are many other attacks. Not as brutal or fatal as these but enough to land lesbians – especially camionas – in hospital. “We as lesbians are always on red alert in this town [Quillota]. Day and night, 24 hours a day 365 days a year. We feel under threat. As soon as you step out of your home you are in danger.

Continue reading: https://www.bbc.com/news/stories-48719453 (source)

Australia: Matilda’s captain Sam Kerr exposes lesbophobic trolls

 

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Photo source: Sam Kerr’s Instagram (@samkerr1)

To understand the Matildas as subordinate to a coach is to misread the room; the Australian national women’s football team has always been a player-led environment. They have continued to express, to some deaf ears, they were happy under Milicic and buying into his game plan.
But the morning after their ‘miracle in Montpellier’, Kerr took aim at a new class of hater; the trolls and the homophobes.
The 25-year-old screen-captured one example of abuse, Tweeting it alongside a message: “For people getting upset about there being ‘no’ haters”.

Continue reading: https://www.sbs.com.au/news/we-don-t-listen-to-the-haters-matildas-captain-sam-kerr-lashes-out-at-critics (source)

U.K: Bus driver called lesbian cyclist a ‘f**king d*ke’

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30-year-old Natalie Lewendon was riding her bicycle home from work in Bristol on Tuesday (11 June) just after 4pm.

As she was heading east on Church road through Lawrence Hill, the traffic slowed down and ‘without warning’, the car she was cycling alongside swung into her path, causing her to brake suddenly.

‘I began to tell the driver off for not looking,’ Lewendon exclusively told Gay Star News. ‘She completely owned that it was her fault and was instantly apologizing to me through the window.’

However, a First Bus bus driver approaching from the opposite direction stopped his bus — holding up traffic — to yell at Lewendon for being in the wrong.

‘I told him that he had no idea what he was talking about and to keep driving,’ Lewendon explained. ‘He continued, leaning out of his window, to berate me at full volume, telling me I was wrong.’

At this point, Lewendon put her bike on the pavement ground and approached the vehicle to get the bus driver’s name and badge number.

‘He continued to abuse me and gave me that “gab gab gab” hand gesture and then finally drove away,’ she said. ‘But not before leering at me and calling me a “fucking dyke”.

‘He dropped his voice while he did it. He knew it was wrong. Lots of people had stopped to watch,’ she said.

Continue reading: https://www.gaystarnews.com/article/
first-bus-sorry-driver-cyclist-slur/#gs.jafuyu
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I was a lesbian tomboy allowed to be female; I fear young girls today no longer have that choice

by Tonje Gjevjon
for feministcurrent.com

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The shame of belonging to a group of so-called “manly” women was widespread and self-loathing not uncommon. There is no shortage of people who ridicule lesbians’ appearances, and who think lesbians shouldn’t be so “lesbian.”

What this really means is that these people think lesbians should conform to stereotypical gender roles: be more feminine, wear makeup, dress and move like “real women.” These attitudes haven’t changed significantly in the last 30-40 years. Even some lesbian or bisexual women express annoyance with the “masculine” lesbians. It’s as if they think masculine lesbians shame lesbians as a whole.

Today, many young lesbians can’t bring themselves to call themselves lesbians, because they associate being lesbian with something ugly and shameful — a failed and unwomanly woman.

Continue reading: https://www.feministcurrent.com/
2019/06/11/i-was-a-lesbian-tomboy-allowed-to-be-female-i-fear-young-girls-today-no-longer-have-that-choice/
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Luleki Sizwe Womyn’s Project: Fighting for Lesbian Safety in South Africa

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In 2006, South Africa became the fifth country in the world to legalize same-sex marriage. So the country must be naturally progressive about LGBTQ equality, right?

The reality is that homophobia, brutal hate crimes, “corrective rape,” and other anti-LGBTQ violence persist, with profoundly heartbreaking effects. And it makes the fight for basic safety in the queer community risky and incredibly difficult.

But over the past decade, one organization has risen to the challenge. Luleki Sizwe Womyn’s Project (luleki-sizwe.com) is a non-profit devoted to delivering help and support to lesbians who are victims of homophobic attacks and rape across 10 South African township communities.

Funda of course welcomes donations — but the group has long encountered problems collecting international non-profit funds through its PayPal account. So, at present, the alternate donation method is via direct bank transfer, which this writer successfully did online in just a few minutes.

The organization’s business transaction account details are: Luleki Sizwe Womyn’s Project; Standard Bank South Africa, Cape Town; account number 071362940; branch code 024909; SWIFT code SBZAZAJJ. The Luleki Sizwe Womyn’s Project can be contacted at 071-171-9654 and info@luleki-sizwe.com. These details are also listed at luleki-sizwe.com/donate.

Continue reading: https://www.gaycitynews.nyc/
stories/2019/13/lulekisizwe-ndumie-funda-2019-06-11-gcn.html
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Update: Five teens arrested in lesbophobic attack

A lesbian couple was attacked on a douple-decker London bus late last month.

Five teenagers have been arrested in connection with a homophobic attack on a London bus late last month, London police say.

Melania Geymonat posted about the violent incident on her Facebook page last week, describing what began as a date night with her partner Chris. On the way home, a group of young men began harassing them. “They started behaving like hooligans, demanding that we kissed so they could enjoy watching, calling us ‘lesbians’ and describing sexual positions,” she wrote. The couple was beaten and bloodied by the group, who allegedly stole their belongings.

Continue reading: https://www.wgbh.org/news/international-news/2019/06/09/five-teens-arrested-in-homophobic-attack-on-london-bus (source)

Original article:  U.K: Lesbian couple beaten up because they refused to kiss

U.S: Lesbian Flag Excluded From The Sims

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Much like many other companies, Electronic Arts Inc joined in on the celebration of Pride month, which is held each June to honor the Stonewall riots of 1969. They did this by adding a handful of flags and other Pride gear to The Sims 4 that players could use in-game to celebrate. While the developers have seemingly always been inclusive for members of the LGBTQ+ communities, they definitely slipped up with the recently revealed addition as out of the 17 flags they included, they left out the lesbian flag.

Continue reading: https://comicbook.com/gaming/
2019/06/12/ea-called-out-excluding-lesbian-flag-the-sims-4/
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The hierarchy of Sexual assault: A gender non-conforming lesbian’s struggle for justice

by Pippa Fleming
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I laid on a twin bed just inches off the ground weeping, “how the fuck did I get here?” as a hurricane hot flash and the smell of cat piss abruptly awakened me. Tears, sweat and funk permeated my sheets as I looked around the cluttered room feeling like a motherless child. As I rocked and held myself, I thought “death of a beloved and sexual assault feels the same.” First comes the shock and numbness, then come the people expressing empathetic sorrow and gestures of help. The body is laid to rest, then comes the repass with all that good soul food, while folks reminisce about the departed. When the last guest leaves, the door shutting behind them sparks the realization that you are alone and everyone else is going to get on with their lives, business as usual.

Call it intuition, a hunch or hindsight, I knew nothing was going to be done. I am a black gender non-conforming lesbian. Even with a narcissistic apology email from my perpetrator (that I’m going to share for shit’s and giggles) what could a black butch lesbian expect? I was disposable, nor was I a famous “queer” woman with a powerful platform like Ellen DeGeneres or Roxane Gay, sharing their stories of sexual assault… nor was I the wife of a famous basketball player like Steph Curry, who had a man arrested after making lewd comments about sexually assaulting her.

Continue reading: The hierarchy of Sexual assault: A gender non-conforming lesbian’s struggle for justice (source)

U.S: Lesbian makeup artist subjected to homophobic abuse

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A woman has gone viral on Twitter after she shared a screenshot of homophobic messages from a bride who wanted her to do her wedding makeup.

“How can you be a latina woman and be gay? You do know being gay is a sin correct.
I will pray for you my friend. I’m sorry that you’ve chosen a path that’s going to send you straight to hell. I think you do beautiful makeup but I just can’t have someone who’s gay being a part of my special day.
The wedding is in a church and I don’t want you walking into my church. If you at any chance change your mind about being gay let me know please so I can book you.”

Continue reading: https://metro.co.uk/2019/06/13/bride-messages-makeup-artist-homophobic-abuse-after-finding-out-shes-gay-9944030/ (source)

Cameroon: Assaults, rape, death threats over lesbian affair

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In April, when a Cameroonian man learned that his common-law wife was attracted to women, he assaulted her, raped her lover and threatened to kill them both.

“He burst into the house and struck me to the ground. He tore off my clothes. He assaulted my girlfriend and raped her in front of me as I lay on the floor helplessly. My lover lived in a secluded area, so no neighbors could hear our cries for help.

Before leaving, my husband hit me again on the head and vowed to return later to kill us. Afraid for our lives, my lover and I packed up and went to the home of one of her friends who agreed to host us for a few days.”

Continue reading: https://rightsafrica.com/2019
/06/13/cameroon-assaults-rape-death-threats-over-lesbian-affair/
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Update: FIFA Bars Afghan Soccer Chief guilty of sexual assault and intimidation

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FIFA on Saturday barred the president of Afghanistan’s soccer association from the sport for life, months after reports emerged that he had sexually assaulted players and had threatened them when they went public with their accusations.

Women who rebuffed his advances were labeled lesbians and expelled from the team, according to eight former players who said that it had happened to them. Those who went public said they faced intimidation.

Continue reading: https://www.nytimes.com/2019
/06/08/sports/soccer/afghanistan-soccer-sexual-abuse.html
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Original article: Afghanistan: abused soccer players silenced by claims of lesbianism

U.K: Lesbian actors targeted in ‘homophobic’ attack

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Two actors were attacked on their way to a theatre performance in what was described as a “cowardly homophobic hate crime”.
Lucy Jane Parkinson and Rebecca Banatvala were starring in Rotterdam, which tells the story of a young gay woman, at Southampton’s NST Campus.
The London-based couple said they were walking to the theatre for the matinee performance on Saturday when Ms Parkinson was hit by an object – possibly “stones”, according to police – apparently thrown from a passing car.
The final two performances of the Olivier Award-winning play by Jon Brittain were cancelled as a result.

Continue reading: https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-hampshire-48572800 (source)

France: Women call out sexism and lesbophobia in the LGBTI movement

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Eight women are calling for an end to sexism in the LGBT community

“We are women, committed, committed to the rights, freedoms and visibility of LGBT +, especially women and lesbians, in France and Europe. For some of us, we are or have been the first women Presidents and / or spokespersons, activists involved in LGBT + organizations.We wish by this tribune to share a flush. Fed up with the ordinary sexism and misogyny of the LGBT community, as much as in our society in general. To be a woman in the LGBT community is to be faced with a double sentence. Far from us the idea of prioritizing minorities, but it is clear that our dual discrimination, woman and homosexual, does not really seem to be integrated by a number of gays, despite some speeches facade!

Women excluded from decisions
In our struggle for the rights of LGBT people, there is now a need to defend our rights as women within our community.

Refused by a physio because “too feminine” (sic), resignation of members “not wanting to be led by a woman” (re sic), bullying, speech cut, gritty jokes, we all witnessed or experienced breathtaking scenes reminding us that beyond being gay, you are men first and foremost.

As women emancipate themselves, the world seems to be aware and the extent of the phenomenon “me too”, the gay community has not, as a whole, questioned the virilist behaviors of machismo and greed power and recognition. In this sense it reproduces the conscious or unconscious behaviors of its heterosexual counterparts. It is a combination of self-esteem and endogamy, with gay activists finding themselves in their leisure and outing areas, sometimes after our meetings as well, which maintains a male fraternity, effectively excluding women from many decisions. .

Lesbians are not your enemies
Gentlemen, do not be fooled by fights, lesbians are not your enemies. Know how to make room, and for that know to even stay in your place.

For example, we are thinking of the debate on extending the PMA to all women. How many lesbians, how many people, in the media, in political meetings and hearings to talk about our pregnancies, our bodies, our families? Very, very little!
How do you think you can speak, sometimes in a contradictory way, in place of the women concerned, whose aspirations may be different and only legitimate to bring all the nuances?

In general, how are too many gay people engaged in discussions, meetings, boards of directors of LGBT associations? By monopolizing speech, sometimes by repeating words spoken by women to rephrase them, under the approval of other gays present. Many reproduce the sexist behaviors, a legacy of the education received where the man is always valued and pushed forward by the family environment and the social environment.

This statement shared by the associations that fight against inequality between women and men and sexism is ours and must be yours, acting as the founders of #jamaissanselles have been able to do.

The issue of under-representation of lesbians in the governance of mixed LGBT + associations for a number of reasons must lead CAs to question the causes and how to respond to them. ”

Catherine MICHAUD – Catherine TRIPON – Aurélie NICOLAS – Marie-Claude PICARDAT – Emmanuelle CAMPO – Emilie DURET – Flora BOLTER – Aurore FOURSY

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Huit femmes lancent un appel pour mettre fin au sexisme au sein de la communauté LGBT

 

Nous sommes des femmes, engagées, impliquées pour les droits, les libertés et la visibilité des LGBT+, particulièrement des femmes et des lesbiennes, en France et en Europe. Pour certaines d’entre nous, nous sommes ou avons été les premières femmes présidentes et/ou porte-paroles, militantes engagées au sein d’organismes LGBT+.

Nous souhaitons par cette tribune faire part d’un ras le bol. Le ras le bol du sexisme et de la misogynie ordinaires régnant dans le milieu LGBT, autant que dans notre société en général. Être une femme dans le milieu LGBT c’est être confrontée à une double peine. Loin de nous l’idée de hiérarchiser les minorités mais force est de constater que notre double discrimination, femme et homosexuelle, ne semble pas véritablement être intégrée par un certain nombre de gays, malgré quelques discours de façade !

Les femmes exclues des décisions
A notre combat pour les droits des personnes LGBT s’ajoute aujourd’hui le besoin de défendre nos droits comme femmes au sein même de notre communauté.

Refoulées par un physio car « trop féminines » (sic), démission d’adhérents « ne voulant pas être dirigés par une femme » (re sic), brimades, paroles coupées, blagues graveleuses, nous avons toutes assisté à ou vécu des scènes ahurissantes nous rappelant qu’au-delà d’être gays vous êtes des hommes avant tout.

Alors que les femmes s’émancipent, que le monde semble prendre conscience et la mesure du phénomène « me too », la communauté gay n’a pas, dans son ensemble, remis en question les comportements virilistes du machisme et de l’avidité du pouvoir et de reconnaissance. En ce sens elle reproduit les comportements conscients ou inconscients de ses homologues hétérosexuels. Cela se double d’un entre soi et d’une endogamie, les militants gays se retrouvant dans leurs espaces de loisirs et de sortie, parfois aussi après nos réunions, ce qui entretient une fraternité masculine, excluant de fait les femmes de nombres de décisions.

Les lesbiennes ne sont pas vos ennemies
Messieurs, ne vous trompez pas de combats, les lesbiennes ne sont pas vos ennemies. Sachez faire de la place, et pour cela sachez même rester à votre place.

Nous pensons par exemple au débat sur l’extension de la PMA à toutes les femmes. Combien de lesbiennes, combien de personnes concernées, dans les médias, dans des réunions et auditions politiques pour parler de nos grossesses, de nos corps, de nos familles ? Très, trop peu !
Comment pensez-vous pouvoir parler, parfois de manière contradictoire, à la place des femmes concernées, dont les aspirations peuvent être différentes et sont seules légitimes pour en apporter toutes les nuances ?

De manière générale comment se comportent trop de gays dans le cadre de discussions, réunions, conseils d’administration d’associations LGBT ? En monopolisant la parole, parfois en reprenant des propos énoncés par des femmes pour les reformuler, sous l’approbation d’autres gays présents. Beaucoup reproduisent les comportements sexistes, héritage de l’éducation reçue où l’homme est toujours valorisé et poussé en avant par l’entourage familial et l’environnement social.

Ce constat partagé par les associations qui luttent contre l’inégalité entre les femmes et les hommes et le sexisme est le nôtre et doit être le vôtre, en agissant comme les fondateurs de #jamaissanselles ont su le faire.

La question de la sous-représentation des lesbiennes dans la gouvernance des associations mixtes LGBT+ pour plusieurs raisons doit amener les CA à s’interroger sur les causes et la manière d’y répondre. »

Catherine MICHAUD – Catherine TRIPON – Aurélie NICOLAS – Marie-Claude PICARDAT – Emmanuelle CAMPO – Emilie DURET – Flora BOLTER – Aurore FOURSY

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France: Lesbian journalist threatened, harassed and told to kill herself

Emilie Lopez, former editor-in-chief of “Touche pas à mon Poste”, has been threatened with death on social networks by individuals who reproach her for being lesbian.
“In recent months, it has been ramping up with terrifying messages. I once received a video of a boy masturbating, who said to me, “You’ll see I’ll put it deep when I get to the studio.” Then last October, a guy on Instagram told me to “commit suicide” and attacked my girlfriend. This individual was speaking with his true identity, and with a real profile picture, and it really made me flip! I realised that all this was real, and I decided to file a complaint for the first time.”
(Translated)

Emilie Lopez, ex-rédactrice en chef de « Touche pas à mon Poste », a été menacée de mort sur les réseaux sociaux par des individus qui lui reprochent d’être lesbienne.
“Ces derniers mois, c’est allé crescendo avec des messages terrifiants. J’ai reçu un jour une vidéo d’un garçon en train de se masturber, qui me disait « Tu vas voir je vais te la mettre profond quand je vais arriver devant le studio ». Puis en octobre dernier, un mec sur Instagram m’a conseillé « d’aller me suicider », et s’en est pris à ma compagne. Cet individu s’exprimait avec sa véritable identité, et avec une vraie photo de profil, et ça m’a vraiment fait flipper ! Je me suis rendu compte que tout ça était bien réel, et j’ai décidé d’aller porter plainte, pour la première fois.”
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UK: Lesbian journalist attacked after public event

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A leading British feminist, who campaigns against violence towards women, has claimed that she was attacked in Edinburgh last night by a transgender person.

Julie Bindel, the keynote speaker at an Edinburgh University event which discussed the future of women’s sex-based rights, said she was verbally abused, “lunged at” and almost “punched in the face”, by a transwoman as she left the building.

She thanked university security staff for protecting her and said she was still considering whether to press charges.

Continue reading: https://www.scotsman.com/news/crime
/feminist-speaker-julie-bindel-attacked-by-transgender-person-at-edinburgh-university-after-talk-1-4942260
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Editor’s note: The “Cathy Brennan” referred to in the article is not Cathy Brennan, the American lesbian lawyer.

U.K: Lesbian couple beaten up because they refused to kiss

Melania Geymonat (right) and her girlfriend Chris (left) were horrifically attacked when they refused to kiss for a gang of thugs’ entertainment on a London bus last week.

A lesbian couple have posted pictures of themselves covered in blood after a gang of thugs bashed them for not kissing for their entertainment.
Melania Geymonat, 28, of Uruguay, was on the bus with her American girlfriend Chris after an evening out in West Hampstead in the early hours of May 30.
Ms Geymonat, who lives in Essex, said the pair decided to sit at the front because they both enjoyed the novelty of a double-decker bus.
Then a gang of young men behind them saw they were a couple and started to demand they kiss while making crude sexual gestures.
“They wanted us to kiss so they could watch us,” she said.

Continue reading: https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/real-life/stewardess-and-girlfriend-bashed-on-bus-because-they-refused-to-kiss-for-gang-of-yobbos/news-story/a9096d8ef7feec545fc701e15102df7c (source)

Update: Update: Five teens arrested in lesbophobic attack

India’s first openly lesbian athlete faces family backlash

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Dutee Chand, India’s first openly gay athlete, is facing a barrage of criticism from her family after announcing she was in a same-sex relationship.
Her mother and father, Akhuji and Chakradhar Chand, have not accepted their daughter’s wish to “settle down” with her partner.
Mr Chand has called their relationship “immoral and unethical”, telling the Times of India: “She has destroyed the reputation of our village.”
In interviews with Indian media, however, Ms Chand does not seem fazed.
“Freedom of choice and freedom to love are my inalienable rights and I shall exercise it,” she told the Times of India.

Continue reading: https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-india-48534449 (source)