We are seeking the stories from lesbians to show how anti lesbian sentiment and structures affect us in relation to the death of our partners, wives and girldfriends.
Since Lisa died I have joined the ranks of lesbian widows – lesbians whose partner, wife or girlfriend has died.
In this time I have heard stories of how bereaved lesbians have been treated by authorities, families, friends, workplaces, support groups.
Some stories are of personal hostility, others are of legal structures which act to harm lesbians or simply fail to protect us.
We are looking to gather some of these stories for Listening2Lesbians, to demonstrate how homophobia and lesbophobia, whether by individuals, groups or social structures, can add to the already traumatic experience of losing a partner.
If you lost your partner as a lesbian, and have experiences to share, please write to us at email@example.com or message us via Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/LlSTEN2LESBlANS/.
Submissions can be anonymous to protect privacy.
Police are appealing for witnesses after two men made homophobic comments and threatened to kill two women and two children in Milton Keynes.
Continue reading at: https://www.miltonkeynes.co.uk/news/crime/appeal-following-homophobic-hate-crime-in-milton-keynes-1-8758799 (source)
Israel’s Interior Ministry has been making retroactive changes to birth certificates issued to children born to lesbian couples, deleting the name of the non-biological mother. This was discovered when couples who obtained new copies of birth certificates found that the documents were different from those already in their possession.
Continue reading at: https://www.haaretz.com/israel-news/.premium-interior-min-changes-birth-certificates-of-lesbian-couples-kids-1.6197156 (source)
A lesbian couple were supposed to pick up their new foster child from Forrest General Hospital in Hattiesburg, Mississippi. On their way home from the hospital, after meeting their new child, they were told a judge changed his mind about the approval.
Continue reading at: https://www.rawstory.com/2018/04/
Authorities in Turin, northern Italy, have refused to register the baby of a lesbian couple.
Chiara Foglietta, a Turin councillor, underwent artificial insemination in Denmark and gave birth last Friday to baby boy Niccolo Pietro.
Italian law sets strict rules for fertility treatment, making it available only to stable heterosexual couples.
Continue reading at: http://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-43823692 (source)
An appeals panel reversed a Chemung County family court judge’s 2015 ruling that denied the lesbian couple’s motion to dismiss a paternity petition from a sperm donor father to their child.
Continue reading at: https://www.law.com/newyorklawjournal/sites/newyorklawjournal/
A same-sex couple is suing the US government alleging discrimination because one of their children was not granted American citizenship.
Continue reading at: http://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-42781501 (Source)
Little Griffin was then born in August after the newlywed couple’s third IVF attempt was successful.
But only Holly, 31, was marked as his mum on the birth cert — with Katie, 34, from Gweedore, Co Donegal, put as a generic “parent”.
However, Irish laws from 1956 define a parent as only a child’s “mother” or “father” and the Passport Office refused Katie’s application for 11-week-old Griffin.
Continue reading at: https://www.thesun.ie/news/1770531/donegal-lesbian-ivf-mum-is-denied-irish-passport-for-her-son-as-1956-law-states-shes-not-the-little-tots-mother/ (Source)
On why they chose to follow only lesbian couples
“The reason we are focusing on lesbians is that in the Birmingham area they’ve been previously invisible,” Sherer says. “And partly that may be because of the AIDS crisis and the attention that was placed on what was going on in in the 80s in Birmingham.”
Continue reading at: New Documentary Highlights Lesbian Struggle for Equality in Alabama | WBHM 90.3 (Source)
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Tagged Alabama, Alabama Bound, Children of lesbian parents, Discrimination, Documentary, family law, homophobia, Lesbian Mothers, lesbian voices, Lesbians in the U.S., Lesbophobia, Marriage equality, parental rights, personal stories
A Nigerian woman accused of lesbian sex has escaped to Canada after surviving an attack by thugs who she said were sent by her ex-husband. The attack and her escape occurred after she was released from police custody following her arrest on homosexuality charges at her ex-husband’s instigation.
Continue reading at: Nigeria: Thugs attack ex-wife suspected of lesbian affair | 76 CRIMES (Source)
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Tagged compulsory heterosexuality, Discrimination, Hate crimes, homophobia, Lesbian Mothers, Lesbians in Canada, Lesbians in Nigeria, Lesbophobia, seeking asylum, Threats of violence, violence against women
Despite being open about their family with relatives and friends, Moskovchenko was the only one from her family who attended this year’s Kyiv Pride on June 18, a march of around 4,000 people in Kyiv in support of the rights of the lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgender people (LGBT).
They said they were worried about their children’s safety. Although nobody was hurt during the march, there were reports later that day that several participants were followed and attacked after the march.
“Staying safe and sound is our duty to our children,” Svidnitska said.Ukrainian law prevents gay couples from adopting children, so the couple don’t have legal rights to each other’s kids — if something happens to Moskovchenko, Svidnitska won’t get custody of her daughter, and vice versa.
Continue reading at: Lesbian couple keeping low profile, but open with family | KyivPost (Source)
The Central District Court decided on Tuesday to give more rights to lesbian couples who want to expand their families, ruling that the wife of the biological mother will also be considered the child’s parent from the moment of birth. This followed a legal struggle by eight lesbian couples who had to endure difficulties stemming from lack of their recognition as their children’s parents.
Continue reading at: Ynetnews News – Lesbian spouses to be recognized as parents from birth (Source)
The French government says it will follow the advice of an ethics panel in favor of allowing single women and lesbian couples to have children through assisted reproduction.
Continue reading at: France to allow assisted reproduction for lesbian couples – ABC News (Source)
So, what changed? Well, it turns out that Merkel’s views were changed the same way that so many people’s are — by meeting a same-sex couple and spending time with them and their family. At a recent event with women’s magazine Brigitte, Merkel said she had “a life-changing experience in my home constituency,” after being invited to have dinner with a lesbian couple and their eight foster children.
Continue reading at: Angela Merkel Same-Sex Marriage Equality Germany (Source)
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Tagged Adoption/Fostering, Angela Merkel, Children of lesbian parents, Discrimination, family law, homophobia, law, Lesbian Mothers, Lesbians in Germany, Lesbophobia, Marriage equality, Politics, representation
On the two-year anniversary of the Obergefell ruling that sent marriage equality nationwide, the Supreme Court ruled today that Arkansas can’t stop same-sex couples from being listed on birth certificates.
Continue reading at: Supreme Court Tells Arkansas It Must List Same-Sex Couples on Birth Certificates | Advocate.com (Source)
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Tagged Arkansas, birth certificates, Children of lesbian parents, Discrimination, family law, homophobia, Lesbian Mothers, Lesbians in the U.S., Obergefell v. Hodges, parental rights, Pavan v. Smith
Chris is appealing the Rankin County court decision that she cannot be placed on the child’s birth certificate, due to the fact that – under Mississippi law – the child already has two biological parents. The case could change the face of legal custody battles, depending on the outcome.
Continue reading at: Appeal to Mississippi Sup. Court could have effects on custody battles across U.S. – News Mississippi (Source)
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Tagged Adoption/Fostering, child custody, Children of lesbian parents, Discrimination, family law, homophobia, In vitro fertilization (IVF), Lesbian Mothers, Lesbians in the U.S., Lesbophobia, Marriage equality, Mississippi
BOISE, Idaho (AP) — The Idaho Supreme Court has denied custody and visitation rights to a gay woman who raised a child with her former partner, reflecting state laws that have not been updated since gay marriage was legalized in 2014.
Grandparents, great-grandparents and even first cousins in Idaho can seek custody, guardianship or visitation rights to children in certain circumstances, but an unmarried same-sex partner cannot.
In the ruling Wednesday, the court decided unanimously that because the former partner is the one who was artificially inseminated and carried the baby and because the two women were not married, the woman identified only as Jane Doe has no parental rights to the 7-year-old child.
Continue reading at: Idaho High Court: Unmarried Gay Partner Has No Custody Right | Idaho News | US News (Source)
“The court carved out an exception to the rule that a child born to a married couple is the legal child of both spouses, ruling that children born as a result of assisted reproduction are the children of the mother and the anonymous sperm donor,” said Beth Littrell, Lambda Legal Counsel. “The lower court’s decision is demeaning and destabilizing, marking Chris and her children as unworthy of the usual protections married families rely on when adult relationships fail.”
“That the court considers an unknowable donor who provided sperm to a fertility clinic more of a parent than the person who takes care of the child when he is sick or helps him with his homework is a slap in the face to thousands of Mississippi families,” Littrell added.
Continue reading at: A Court Ruled That an Anonymous Sperm Donor Has Parental Rights, but This Lesbian Mom Doesn’t. Lambda Legal Is Appealing. | Lambda Legal (Source)
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Tagged Children of lesbian parents, Christina Strickland, Discrimination, family law, homophobia, Lambda Legal, Lesbian Mothers, Lesbians in the U.S., Lesbophobia, Mississippi, parental rights